Monday, February 23, 2009

La La La

Sooo lately I've been trying to branch out my music a little bit. I want to listen to music that makes me feel good; rather than that crap on the radio (although not all of it is crap :-)) I have been trying to listen to more women artists, well because I love women. I decided to post some music videos of some famous women artists who I have recently been enjoying! Feel free to comment and let me know which ones you like. Happy Listening!


This video is Yael Naim. I have recently been loving this song! I discovered it while listening to my Pandora station.



Of Course I had to post this great song! Indigo Girls with Missy Higgens, could it get any better?!?!



The unbelievable Betty with the L Word theme song


This is my favorite Uh Huh Her song. And the bonus is that Alice is a part of Uh Huh Her :-)


Here Tegan and Sara cover the song Walking with a Ghost by the White Stripes


Here Missy Higgins is playing her song Steer. Personally I am a big fan of the guitar!

I hope you enjoyed the music. This is just a small sample, hopefully more to come!

P.S I mentioned Pandora earlier in my post and thought I should elaborate. Pandora is a free Music on the Internet. You can design our own stations based on your favorite songs or artists. Pandora will then play music similar to the styles of the song or artist chose. It's really an amazing invention, I listen to it all the time! I urge you all to check it out!

Peace Through Music! :-)

Thursday, February 12, 2009

Three's Company

My girlfriend and I recently started talking about opening up our relationship. As we have had this discussion many times, I have recently realized that I am definitely ready to start being open. I now realize that it is very important to explore sexuality, see what else is out there, and feed sexual desires. There are so many relationships and marriages that have begun to fall about due to infidelity of one of the people in the relationship. Our society has told us, that when two people are married, or in a serious relationship they must not sleep with anyone else. Where did that idea come from? Who decides what rules my relationship must follow? Shouldn't the rules be made by the two people who are in that relationship?
Now I know there are many other issues with open relationships; the major one being jealousy. However, why is there reason to be jealous if your partner still loves you the same, still wants to be with you, still wants to have sex with you? I think we just assume we should be jealous that our partner is having sex with someone else. But think about it, if some people talked about sexual autonomy and open relationships, then wouldn't the divorce rate go down? Wouldn't couples stay together longer? These are just some of the issues that have popped into my head. I strongly believe that each situation and open relationship is very different for each couple and that it is important to be open and honest with all of the partners involved.

For my girlfriend and I we decided that it might be best to start opening up our relationship by having a threesome with another girl. Now, we are both primarily attracted to women and sexually desire women. We have both been there done that with men, and are looking to explore our sexuality. My partner made us a profile on the website sapphire.com saying that we would like no strings attached threesome with another woman. We got one reply back from a woman who seemed to be using the website for advertising; therefore we had no success. But really, how do you choose the right woman for a threesome? Where do we begin looking? Is Craigslist really a safe way to meet women? These questions are very unanswered for me, but I am very excited about finding someone. I think it will be an adventure; and certainly an experience!

When the right woman is found...how do threesomes work? Are there roles each person plays? Are there rules to be followed? The only threesome's I've ever encountered have been in movies, and cheap porn. But how accurate are those scenes? I guess the answers will all come with experience, and I will be sure to share with you some of the trials and tribulations along the way!!

As always, thanks for reading!

Peace! :-)

Tuesday, February 10, 2009


This week is the 12th annual Freedom to Marry Week, February 8-14, 2009. People across the country have pledged to take part in any of 7 Conversations in 7 Days during the week to move equality forward across the country, and it’s not too late! There are many ways to get involved, the easiest one is just having a conversation with someone!

Here is the link to the National Freedom to Marry website! Listed there are so many ways in which to get involved. Ways such as posting a link on a blog or social networking site, wearing a button, or just talking to someone.

With everyone's support we are one step closer to achieving equal rights for everyone!

Thank you!

Peace and Love!

Monday, February 9, 2009

Celebrating Beautiful Diversity

This past weekend my girlfriend and I were talking about the differences between various labels typically given to lesbians. Labels such as, femme, butch, lipstick lesbian, lipstick butch, saphhist, etc. As we were discussing the various definitions I realized it's hard to just categorize people. I think that it is amazing that there are so many different types of Queer and Lesbian women out there. I strongly believe that it is important to celebrate the diversity we have within such a small community. So in my own small way, I decided to begin the celebration of Queer and Lesbian women and our diversity! So here are some pictures to celebrate the diversity and beauty of Lesbian and Queer women!













Sunday, February 1, 2009

Straight Until Proven Gay

Why does everyone feel like it's so imperative to know whether or not someone is gay. We don't walk up to people and immediately ask, oh are you straight?? I can understand if there are certain situations where it important to know what a persons sexuality is, for example, if you are trying to sleep with someone, or hit on someone.

However in the workplace, why do people feel like they have the right to know about someone's sexuality? Since when do we base our friendships on who our friends sleep with? Sexuality should play such a small role in deciding whether or not we could be friends with someone. The reason I think that this is on my mind is because some of my colleges who I work closely with, and who I socialize with at work, do not know that I am in a same-sex relationship. Not that it is a big deal whether or not they know, but sometimes I feel like I should just come out and say it so I can talk about how great my relationship is, or ask about romantic getaways in our area. However, I just do not feel comfortable yet, and I hate that I am not comfortable with it. I mean what is the worst that is going to happen; they don't like me anymore. If that is the case, then I shouldn't waste my time becoming friends with them. If they don't like who I am, then we wouldn't make great friends anyways. I also don't think I really have anything that is stopping me from just speaking up. The people at work who do know, are so great and accepting, they don't think twice about it. I am able to talk about my relationship and what we did over the weekend together. It feels great to be open about it. I mean why not be open about one of the most important people in my life?!?! So right now I am setting a goal for myself. I am going to stop trying to second guess what people are going to think of me. My relationship is one of the most important things to me, and I am not going to keep it a secret. It feels so much better when people know.