Girlfriend or Girl Friend

My girlfriend I just recently moved together to the Midwest. We moved here after spending a year in a long distance relationship, for LWB to attend graduate school and for myself to find a new job. When we moved here I decided that I wanted to be as open as possible about my relationship, I did not want to hide it. As I made friends at work, I, as well as LWB, began to realize that many people here referred to their best girl friends as "girlfriend." The same way that my grandmother does.

In the past, I have referred to LWB as my girlfriend, and people got it, and nothing more needed to be said. However, here when I introduce LWB as my girlfriend people just assume she is my friend, and nothing more. This confusion has proved difficult, for the both of us. We do not want to use the term Partner. It's not for us, and I don't feel as though we should change how we chose to label ourselves just because people are confused. About six months ago LWB tried to come out to her co-worker and friend, who she spends almost all of her time with when she is at school. After stating she had a girlfriend, who also lived here with her, and LWB said she was sorry for not telling her friend sooner. Assuming that her friend understood this, she talked about me, and where I was from etc. After some brief conversation, LWB began to realize that her friend did not actually get it. She just thought I was a good friend. Shit, this posed a problem, how do you come out to someone twice, that just sucks. Especially someone, who if she really looked at it and thought about it, she would have known that LWB and I are more that just friends.

Another incident of this has happened many times at my work. This past weekend we went to a fundraiser at my school and I introduced LWB to people as my girlfriend, hoping that would just get it. Some we think did, and then we'd get the question, "are you girls roommates?" No, we are not roommates, we are lovers.

This post is all over the place. I just needed to get it out, because it's frustrating.

Thanks for reading! Peace!

The One the Only....Bette Porter

In honor of the L Word so sadly ending I decided to write a post about my all time favorite character Better Porter! Since season 1 she has been my number 1. After 6 seasons I have yet to pin point what it is about her that I love. I know as my girlfriend is reading this she is just laughing at me, because she knows how much I love Bette. Even though I think she is hands down the hottest character, I feel as though there is much more to her that I am so drawn to. She exhibits many of the same amazing characteristics that my girlfriend does; dedication, passion, hard working, loving, and caring. Yes, Bette does have her flaws, however, without those flaws I don't think she would be as amazing. Not everyone is perfect and I think it's important to see each person for who they truly are. Sooo, in honor of the wonderful Bette Porter, here are some of my favorite pictures!

Classic Better Porter, how can you not smile?!?

This is classic picture of Bette on any L Word advertisement

I know, stop drooling, this picture is amazing

Looking wonderful at some benefit or something

Another amazing one!! Loving the hair
How Can your not smile at this smile?

A classic worried Bette
Ok I had to put this one in simply because it's from my favorite episode, and Bette has a wonderful competitive side :-)

Not sure why this is so small but I had to do a Jennifer Beals Flashdance picture

Hot...is all we can really say
I thought it would be appropriate if I ended with a picture of the best couple. I give you permission to Ooogle at their adorableness!

So that's the end of my Bette Porter/Jennifer Beals montage. I know there are probably a few too many but I could have gone on forever! I also recently stumbled upon a new site that I couldn't resist sharing. If you like Bette and Tina and the L Word then you definitely have to check out this site all about TiBette!

I hope you enjoyed the tribute post! More to come as we sadly say goodbye to the L Word. Now go ahead wipe off the drool, pick up your mouth from the floor and go on with you day!

As always...Peace!!!