Three's Company

My girlfriend and I recently started talking about opening up our relationship. As we have had this discussion many times, I have recently realized that I am definitely ready to start being open. I now realize that it is very important to explore sexuality, see what else is out there, and feed sexual desires. There are so many relationships and marriages that have begun to fall about due to infidelity of one of the people in the relationship. Our society has told us, that when two people are married, or in a serious relationship they must not sleep with anyone else. Where did that idea come from? Who decides what rules my relationship must follow? Shouldn't the rules be made by the two people who are in that relationship?
Now I know there are many other issues with open relationships; the major one being jealousy. However, why is there reason to be jealous if your partner still loves you the same, still wants to be with you, still wants to have sex with you? I think we just assume we should be jealous that our partner is having sex with someone else. But think about it, if some people talked about sexual autonomy and open relationships, then wouldn't the divorce rate go down? Wouldn't couples stay together longer? These are just some of the issues that have popped into my head. I strongly believe that each situation and open relationship is very different for each couple and that it is important to be open and honest with all of the partners involved.

For my girlfriend and I we decided that it might be best to start opening up our relationship by having a threesome with another girl. Now, we are both primarily attracted to women and sexually desire women. We have both been there done that with men, and are looking to explore our sexuality. My partner made us a profile on the website sapphire.com saying that we would like no strings attached threesome with another woman. We got one reply back from a woman who seemed to be using the website for advertising; therefore we had no success. But really, how do you choose the right woman for a threesome? Where do we begin looking? Is Craigslist really a safe way to meet women? These questions are very unanswered for me, but I am very excited about finding someone. I think it will be an adventure; and certainly an experience!

When the right woman is found...how do threesomes work? Are there roles each person plays? Are there rules to be followed? The only threesome's I've ever encountered have been in movies, and cheap porn. But how accurate are those scenes? I guess the answers will all come with experience, and I will be sure to share with you some of the trials and tribulations along the way!!

As always, thanks for reading!

Peace! :-)